They all seemed pretty polite when I was a kid, but the history of the Jedi is long and rife with bloody conflict.

[ Thousands of years long. Kanan learned about it as a child. Mostly as a cautionary tale. ]

But really, the point is that there are lots of different paths, and lots of ways to serve the Force. I can still be a Jedi without the Order. I can still be a Jedi, and have a family of my own, even.