[ he doesn't mind her asking; he just wasn't prepared to answer, because he is a lovestruck dork. he pauses, giving himself enough time to gather his thoughts. the reasons are actually fairly serious. ]
It's several factors at play. First and foremost, we haven't been in each other's lives long enough to rationalize a proper proposal - a few short months isn't much in the grand scheme of things.
[ the next one gives him more pause, but it's noticeably heavier than the last. ]
Aside from that is the fact that we are from completely different worlds. Making such a show of commitment with that in mind shouldn't be done so hastily.
[ the marriages he knows to have taken place in empatheias have a common thread in that they were each between people originally from the same world. it made things simpler, knowing that even if one returned to that world, they would still be able to see each other - or even have a chance at meeting, for that matter. he and ignis don't have that luxury. ]
That being said... I still want to make some sort of gesture.
[He isn't wrong. Both of those points are something worth thinking heavily about in the context of a relationship here. Time, being from different worlds, and how unpredictable Verens could be are all things that can and should have an impact on how serious a relationship becomes, but at the same time--]
The circumstances here are different than they would be in our own galaxies, that's true. But you do love him, don't you?
[ he's thought about it plenty, as much as the worst-case scenario leaves a heaviness in his chest. he hasn't let fear dictate their relationship so far, but with ignis having already returned home once and steven recently having become the only one from his world left, he has to wonder what the best course of action should be. his heart and his mind are at odds with one another - it's a new sensation for him.
that being said, there's no hesitation in his answer. ]
This world provides us with opportunities not possible in our own homes. In my own case, it's given me the chance to spend time with people long since passed in my time.
[Look it's time for an impromptu speech, and there's a point to this speech.]
In your case, it's given you the chance at a relationship impossible anywhere else. I think it's important to take advantage of these opportunities, because there's no way to know when things might change and what you may regret not doing when you had the chance.
[ hey, he makes impromptu speeches all the time. you do you, leia.
he listens carefully - although it isn't anything he doesn't already know, hearing it from a third party does drive the message a bit deeper. it's true that they've based quite a bit of their relationship on not wasting time... even so, he has to wonder if this sort of gesture would be crossing a threshold that they weren't ready for. ]
We'll have to discuss it. At the very least, I was planning to offer a ring... I don't see myself committing to anyone else.
[Steven's situation is different from her and Han's, she knows that full well, but that last comment reminds her of everything the two of them have been through. So at the very least, it gives her a bit better frame of reference for trying to both understand where Steven is coming from and giving her advice and thoughts.]
A good place to start. And it's not as if giving rings has to lead to a large ceremony or anything of that sort. In my own case, we had something small, with only a handful of people present.
[ though their circumstances may not be the same, he appreciates her input all the same. it's why he reached out to her in the first place - at the very least, he feels a bit more confident in his decision. ]
I'll keep it in mind. For now, I think the gesture alone will keep us happy for a while.
[ neither of them are particularly public about their personal lives, even with close friends. the idea itself is fairly overwhelming as well - he needs to do some proper thinking when he has a quiet moment to himself. ]
I'm sure you made a beautiful bride.
[ they hadn't been terribly close when the ceremony happened - he understands as much. ]
[of course, more than just Han felt that way, but Leia's concerns with her appearance have always been minimal and more about whether her appearance was appropriate for the situation than anything. But even with that, she does think the both of them looked nice at their wedding.]
The gesture alone means more than enough on its own, I know that personally. Having an official ceremony, for us, was more because of the people present here in Verens than anything, but Han took the planning very seriously regardless.
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It's several factors at play. First and foremost, we haven't been in each other's lives long enough to rationalize a proper proposal - a few short months isn't much in the grand scheme of things.
[ the next one gives him more pause, but it's noticeably heavier than the last. ]
Aside from that is the fact that we are from completely different worlds. Making such a show of commitment with that in mind shouldn't be done so hastily.
[ the marriages he knows to have taken place in empatheias have a common thread in that they were each between people originally from the same world. it made things simpler, knowing that even if one returned to that world, they would still be able to see each other - or even have a chance at meeting, for that matter. he and ignis don't have that luxury. ]
That being said... I still want to make some sort of gesture.
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The circumstances here are different than they would be in our own galaxies, that's true. But you do love him, don't you?
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that being said, there's no hesitation in his answer. ]
I do.
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[Look it's time for an impromptu speech, and there's a point to this speech.]
In your case, it's given you the chance at a relationship impossible anywhere else. I think it's important to take advantage of these opportunities, because there's no way to know when things might change and what you may regret not doing when you had the chance.
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he listens carefully - although it isn't anything he doesn't already know, hearing it from a third party does drive the message a bit deeper. it's true that they've based quite a bit of their relationship on not wasting time... even so, he has to wonder if this sort of gesture would be crossing a threshold that they weren't ready for. ]
We'll have to discuss it. At the very least, I was planning to offer a ring... I don't see myself committing to anyone else.
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A good place to start. And it's not as if giving rings has to lead to a large ceremony or anything of that sort. In my own case, we had something small, with only a handful of people present.
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I'll keep it in mind. For now, I think the gesture alone will keep us happy for a while.
[ neither of them are particularly public about their personal lives, even with close friends. the idea itself is fairly overwhelming as well - he needs to do some proper thinking when he has a quiet moment to himself. ]
I'm sure you made a beautiful bride.
[ they hadn't been terribly close when the ceremony happened - he understands as much. ]
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[of course, more than just Han felt that way, but Leia's concerns with her appearance have always been minimal and more about whether her appearance was appropriate for the situation than anything. But even with that, she does think the both of them looked nice at their wedding.]
The gesture alone means more than enough on its own, I know that personally. Having an official ceremony, for us, was more because of the people present here in Verens than anything, but Han took the planning very seriously regardless.
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[ he's certain leia wouldn't marry an idiot, so he'd like to have his first impression proven wrong. ]
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I'd be happy to introduce you at a much more reasonable hour of the day.